Feeling Uncomfortable? How To Push Yourself Towards Growth

In my world there has been a lot of change. I'm doing things daily that don't always feel good, but I know that I need to do these things because they align with my values and what I want to achieve in the long run.

I think as mothers we can often forget about our own needs and desires as everyone else comes first. But I am really encouraging you to take the time to sit down and think about your goals for the second half of the year. What lights you up? What would you like to see your life to look like? What do you value the most now in your life and how do you bring that into action?

Creating a plan for yourself gives you direction but also encourages you to push yourself. The daily routines you have add up and demonstrate how you show up for yourself towards your bigger goals as well. Can I get to those places without doing all of the things? Probably, but my growth will be harder and slower. I also know that you learn from your mistakes and while we all want to easy way to make money, have friends, have meaningful relationships, be happy, have healthy kids - sometimes we need to go through the hard times to grow and be grateful for what we do have.

Another point is that our subconscious (ego) wants you to remain the same and is threatened by change. It feels comfortable keeping the status quo and will keep looking at things in your day to day to keep you this way. Most of us are stuck in subconscious programming: in fact, some brain scans reveal that we operate only 5% of the day in a conscious state, the rest of the time, we are in subconscious autopilot. This means that we are making active choices during only a small sliver of our days and letting our subconscious run the show the rest of the time.

 So if you believe that things are challenging or overwhelming or nothing works in your favour, it is likely that you will stay in the same position. Or you might change things in your life for a little bit, but it will be too far from routine or where you feel comfortable, and you will slip back into old routines and habits. Therefore taking responsibility for yourself can be empowering as there is likely an intuitive part of you that knows there is more available to you, otherwise you wouldn't be here reading this.

 If this is sounding like something you are experiencing in that you are feeling uncomfortable or are starting to become more aware of patterns that aren't serving you and where you would like to be then I would suggest leaning into that. I would be journalling on what feelings are coming up, what you are noticing and what you could do differently to lean into where you want to be. Mindfulness and visualisation practices can also work and if this is of interest I can point you in the direction of more resources. But ultimately, I just want you to know that you are not alone. Sometimes as a mum you just don't know what direction to take, and you are in survival mode. And that is ok too. You will slowly find your way and connect more with your desires. Of course, if you would like to get there quicker or know something needs to change then I am here to support and guide you.